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Balance is very important in a relationship and sometimes we become so close we forget our own independence. Sometimes being too close is unhealthy and it is a good idea to find a way to be independent while being together. Here is how you can find your independent self within your loving relationship.

Independence can help strengthen your bond and improve your relationship.

Make Time for Yourself
You are in love, but you can still have you own life. If you find that you have more of a flexible schedule than your partner and more free time, you might feel like you want to cling to them when they are around. Remember to fill your time doing things you enjoy. Go for a workout, take a yoga class or go out with your girlfriends. If your relationship is strong, a few hours apart will not hurt you or your commitment. When you have other hobbies and activities separate from your partner, you will create more excitement in the relationship. You might even consider taking a separate vacation or joining a club. It is important to have trust between each other and to know that you can safely have your own life while being in love.

Appreciate Your Differences
It is very healthy for there to be differences in your relationship. Do you have a love for the arts, while your partner has a love for golf? Then enjoy your hobbies when you can and then talk about them. You are not expected to love all your partner’s interests when you go into a relationship, but you can learn about them if you want to. You probably fell in love with each other in the first place because you had some differences you admired. If your partner doesn’t feel like playing tennis with you, then you might want to join a tennis team. If your partner doesn’t feel like attending every social event you go to, then take a friend instead.

Be Who You Are
You may value what your partner thinks about you, but it isn’t who you are. Your own values and beliefs are what make you who you are. Don’t become focused on what your partner thinks about your every move. Treat your partner the same way and do not impose your values, or expect them to turn into you. Respect the differences and opinions and sometimes you may have to agree to disagree.

Make Clear Expectations
It is a good idea to make some expectations clear in the relationship. If you expect that your partner cleans up after themselves, tell them this is what you need. It is respectful to let your partner know if you won’t be home for dinner, or to call when you are late from work. Obviously you cannot let someone know where you are all the time, but little gestures can help prevent worry in the relationship. When you communicate your needs and expectations to each other it will be easier for you both in the long run.

Independence can help strengthen your bond and improve your relationship. Some people get too clingy in their relationships and, therefore, the relationship becomes smothering and uneventful. Keep active. Join groups, community classes and clubs. Share stories of your newfound interests with your partner. With independence comes strength and security, which will only make you stronger as a couple.

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